The power of " I LOVE YOU "

           The quality of life is usually tied intimately to the quality of our relationships with those around us. All kinds of relationships those with parents, with friends, with co-workers, with boyfriends or girlfriends, with spouses etc..have an impact. 

           In an intimate relationships we often find ourselves looking for the same thing- validation, confidence, reassurance and of course, love. Deep and meaningful L - O - V - E. 

          When we don't hear " I Love you " from our significant other,that validation, confidence and reassurance can quickly drop off. 

          But where did the significance behind these words come from and why do we put so much emphasis on eight little letters? 

          Are any three words more heavily charged than " I Love you "? They do more than acknowledge that I will your good. They affirm that you have a place in their heart; That I delight in you,that you are a part of me; that you have some power over me. They say I want to give you the gift of myself. They confess that your acceptance or rejection of me can build me up or tear me down. They admit my vulnerability. They promise, " I will forgive whatever wrong you cause me, because for you Iam willing to be wounded. Iam willing to suffer." They beg the response. Yes, I Love you too! 

           Concept of " I Love you " is simple and yet astoundingly powerful. Caring touch, kind words, and intentional routine will form the kind of bond and connection that opens not just the heart, but also the mind and the will. Because  of the dopamine that's released and the emotional connections that are made, phrase " I Love you " actually wire the brain for greater impulse control, stimulate a desire for positive behavior, and increase attention span and impulse control - all things that are crucial to succeed in relationships and in life. 

             There is not a phrase in the English language that is as loaded with emotion as " I Love you ".The reason we place so much emphasis on hearing the three little words is that it's a symbol for the next level of the relationship. This makes hearing 'Love' a whole lot more important as the L word is defining factor in an intimate relationship and verbalizing it signifies the depth and seriousness of the union. 

              Despite this, there may be times we just desensitizing ourselves to the most powerful phrase " I Love you ". Everytime that we say it, when it isn't what we mean, we diminish the meaning more and more. Soon, it will not be a phrase of commitment and devotion, but just a phrase of admiration. And if admiration is that we can accomplish as a society, what else is there to strive for? 

              If we don't mean it,we don't need to say it. We need to keep a grasp on what is left of our " I Love you "s. We need to tuck them in our pocket and keep them for those that truly need them from us. We need to give them to our families,and our significant other. We need to say it to the people who need to hear it from us more than anything. We need to say it to those addicts in our life, or those who just can't seem to shake loose of the depression that clings to their backs. These are the people that need to hear it. These are the people whose lives can be changed by this phrase. This is the power behind the phrase " I Love you ",and we need to stop wasting it. 

                 If you truly love someone, then tell them. Say it when meaning behind your eyes and a smile on your face that has purpose. This can make an absolute difference and this can save the phrase " I Love you " from losing all of its meaning. We need this phrase like we need food, without it, we begin to wither. 

                If you love them, tell them. It can make the difference in their day or even their life. Don't let the power of " I Love you " fade with this generation.